7 important things to remember before adopting a child

7 important things to remember before adopting a child

Welcoming a child into one’s family through adoption is an indescribable feeling. As a child enters their new parents’ lives, the joy everyone feels is immeasurable. Adoption is a long and complicated process at times due to all the emotions involved. As a result, prospective parents of an adopted child may make certain mistakes during the process. Remembering certain essentials and avoiding typical mistakes is important to make the adoption process smooth and stress-free.

There are many types of adoption
Many people may be unaware of this, but there are several kinds of adoption. So, one of the first major decisions parents must make during the process is what kind of adoption they want to pursue. There are three kinds of adoption: semi-open (also called mediated adoption), open, and closed.

The most common type of adoption is semi-open adoption, which is also considered to be the most restrictive. In this type of adoption,  most, if not all, communication between adoptive families and birth mothers is  conducted through a mediator, formally called the adoption professional. This is done to preserve identifying information between the two parties on either side of the mediator.

In an open adoption, identifying information between the two parties is exchanged with little to zero interference from a middle person. This kind of adoption is common for adoptive families that are keen to know more about a child’s birth parents. Conversely, closed adoption involves no communication at all between the adoptive parents and a given child’s birth parents. This adoption is rare and only happens due to exceptional or legal circumstances.

Adoption involves a lot of paperwork
One reason adoption is a relatively long process is the sheer paperwork involved. Adoption agencies demand several documents from parents who wish to adopt children. The number of ID proofs, residential proofs, and other documents involved can easily overwhelm anybody.

When people make their adoption application, they must include copies of marriage licenses, tax returns, birth certificates, and various financial documents. Some adoption agencies need parents to provide their work history and even their biometric data. Additionally, physical exams and background checks are also part of the process. To help them navigate the process easily, people can seek assistance from special adoption assistance agencies. These agencies can also help people understand the associated costs.

The agency conducts a home study before the adoption
The adoption application and the paperwork involved are just a small part of the overall adoption process. During verification, the agency or other investigative body will conduct a home study of the adoptive family’s property. In a home study, a case worker from the adoption agency investigates the adoptive family’s home, daily lifestyle, and how well they have maintained their house. These factors then go on to determine whether an adopted child would be comfortable in the new home or not. A home study is not a short process; it takes a few months to complete. This process, over a prolonged period, involves the case worker conducting several walk-throughs and interviews.

At times, the process may feel too intrusive because of the possibility of the to-be mother and father of an adoptive child being interviewed together and separately. During these interviews, the case worker touches upon topics like each parent’s childhood, their personal relationships, their anxiety and stress levels, and other factors to make sure that none of them will cause problems for the adopted child entering the house.

Adoption involves a lot of expenses
Generally, adopting a newborn child is costlier than bringing an older kid or adolescent child into one’s home. Based on where the new parents reside and the services provided by the adoption agency, the cost of adoption can range from about $15,000 to $100,000 and even higher in some cases.

Some adoption agencies offer financial protection
Generally, people looking to adopt children must seek out and work with adoption agencies that prioritize the well-being of the child and protect the adoptive parents’ finances. It is best to avoid agencies that treat the entire adoption process as a business operation.

Certain agencies offer a risk-sharing program to ensure that parents have more opportunities to adopt kids in case a disruption occurs in their first attempted adoption. Risk-sharing agencies tend to refund a large chunk, or the complete amount of lost adoption fees, which include living expenses, legal expenses, and prenatal care expenses.

Understand the adoption process thoroughly
When applying for adoption, it’s important to understand the process well. Nearly all adoption agencies require applicants to complete pre-adoption education. If they do not have enough knowledge, they may be asked to take additional educational programs to increase their understanding. There are a host of videos and tutorials available online with the necessary study materials to help applicants learn more about the adoption process.

Run a background check on the adoption agency
Corruption is an unfortunate problem that can also occur in the adoption process. For example, many cases have been revealed in the past in which law enforcement agencies have found that certain adoption agencies take children from their birth parents without their consent and put them up for adoption to make money. In such cases, adoption applicants also get needlessly dragged into. To avoid such situations, applicants must run a background check on the agency they are considering before proceeding with the adoption process to ensure that it is trustworthy and ethical.

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